Blind Date
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Stay sober
Too many singles use alcohol to ease their nervousness. Drinking may make you feel more confident and outgoing, but in reality it makes you look unrefined and easy. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and standards. You don't want to do either during a blind date. So use your personality, not your alcohol tolerance, to impress your date.
Humor them
Don't try and be funny, just be funny. If you launch into a stand-up act, you're going to be seen as a buffoon. It will look like you are trying way too hard to impress. Instead, stick to situational humor. Playfully tease them by taking something they said out of context or poking fun at how they acted in a non-serious situation.
Mind your manners
Turn off your cell phone and stop your eyes from wandering. Nothing's ruder than taking a call or ogling someone else while on a date. So put your phone away and fight the urge to text message. Keep your attention on your date, not the attractive waiter or waitress nearby. Show you've got some class.
Be polite
Just because there's no spark, no attraction, it doesn't give you right to be rude. If the person is fun and interesting, they might become a friend or an ally in dating. They may know some someone who is better suited for you. By expanding your social network you're increasing your chances of meeting that 'special someone.'
Another reason to be polite is the two of you have a mutual friend. If you act like a jerk, your actions will reflect poorly upon them. That will lead to the matchmaker losing respect for you. Now there's no reason for them to line you up with their supermodel cousin, who just moved into town.
Give them a chance
If there aren't instant sparks between you - don't sweat it. Too many singles expect to instantly click with that 'special someone,' but in most cases it doesn't happen like that. Instant connections are rare outside of fairy tales and romantic movies. So get to know them better before you pass any judgments. If you give them a chance, they may turn out to be that 'special someone' after all.
Offer to pay for half... or all
Society expects men to pay on the first date, so it's important they're willing to do so. If she thinks you're cheap - you're not getting a second date. Woman on the other hand, can impress just by offering to split the tab. This shows him they have their financial life together and aren't treating him like a meal ticket.
AT DATES END
Immediately confirm a second date
By the end of the date, it should be clear whether or not the two of you would like to see each other again or start plotting your revenge on the matchmaker. If things went well, tell them you had a great time and would like to meet again. If they agree, suggest an activity, a day and possible times.
To improve your second date chances, suggest an activity that came up in conversation (their love of mini-golf). Use their passions to your advantage. The only mistake you can make now is to look too interested. So tell them you look forward to seeing them again, give them a kiss on the cheek or hug and leave.
Gentle letdown
If the date did not go well, give them a gentle letdown. Tell them it was nice to meet them and that you'll probably see them around. Don't commit to another date or call you never intend to make. You don't want to be too harsh, but you don't them waiting by the phone wondering why you're not calling either.
Singles should know, "I'll give you a call sometime," means you're likely never going to hear from that person again. Unless a specific activity and time were discussed - odds are they're not going to call. It's the dating world's most polite and common letdown.
Don't give up
If the first blind date or ten doesn't provide you with that special someone - don't lose hope. Even if it took 200 blind dates to meet your perfect partner, wouldn't a lifetime of happiness be worth it? And along the way you'll learn more about yourself, how to better communicate with the opposite sex, and sharpen all of your social skills.
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If the blind date went well try to immediately set up a second date.
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Be careful. Give blind dates your cell phone number. Don’t give your work or home number to someone you don’t know. It's also advisable to meet at a set location, instead of having them pick you up in front of your place. That way they don't know exactly where you live. Odds are, nothing bad will happen, but it's better to be safe than sorry. - allstardatingtips.com |
