Body Language
Using body language to attract
By Neal Talbot, All-Star contributor
Updated: 9:22 AM, September 1, 2008
Body language can say everything about you without saying a single word. Which is why it is your most important tool of attraction. First impressions are made within six seconds. That's too quickly to win people over though words. It's going to be your actions - more specifically your body language - which showcases your personality.
Sound far-fetched? It's not. Studies have shown 60 percent of all communication is non-verbal. Think about it. Slumped shoulders tell us a far different story than when pulled upright. Negative and positive posture can tell us the confidence level of a person in seconds. We read body language and place values on people long before they open their mouth.
But body language isn't just about making a positive first impression. It is also used to signal interest in the opposite sex. A person's body language will tell you if they're interested, if they want you to approach, and when they're attracted to you. Reading these signals can allow you to walk into a room and within minutes know exactly who is interested in you.
Knowing how to read body language is going to open up a whole new world to you. Suddenly dating will seem much easier. So take off the blinders, expand your senses and let All-Star Dating Tips guide you through the previously unseen world of body language.
Body language uses
There are four main body language functions. To create a positive first impression. To show sexual availability. To indicate interest. And to return interest. Done properly, it allows you to create intrigue, show you're single, read signals of interest from others and respond with signs of your own. All without saying a word.
First impression
A person's body language - posture, walk, and gestures - creates first impressions. This allows you to control how you are seen by strangers. If you stand, walk and gesture with a powerful grace, they're going to see you as powerful.
Sexual availability
Moving with an air of sexuality shows other singles you're available. Flirting, touching and attire are all sensual signals. Using these will create intrigue and convince interested singles to approach or send you signals to approach.
Indicate interest
Body movements allow you to show or read interest. Use eye contact, posture, body positioning, gestures and touch to indicate interest. Or scan the singles around you to see who's signalling you.
Return interest
Once you receive signs of interest it's important to respond with signs of your own. Trade signs until you're convinced they are interested. Once they give you enough signs - it's time to approach.
BOBY LANGUAGE BASICS
Posture
Your most important body language tool. Our posture tells everyone what we think about ourselves. Someone with a straight back, strong shoulders and slow gestures looks far more attractive than someone with a curved back, slouched shoulders, and sporadic gestures. Strong posture equals strong personality.
Perfect posture is the same for both men and women. Stand with your back straight, shoulders pulled back, chest out, chin up, stomach pulled in, hands at your sides and feet planted squarely on the floor. Use this posture to take up space and make your presence known.
The Talk
When talking, be solid. Lean back slightly like you're viewing a painting in an art gallery. Being solid shows you're powerful and confident. Leaning back slightly shows you're not needy and draws people closer to you. Place one foot slightly ahead of the other, shoulder-width apart, to maintain your balance.
The Walk
An arrogant grace is one of the most effective weapons in the attraction arsenal. With every self-assured step, you give off an aura of confidence, power and sexuality. Eyes from all around the room are drawn to you. Yet, it doesn't look like you're trying to attract attention.
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Use your body language to make a powerful positive impression.
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Studies show 60% of communication is non-verbal and only 40% verbal. This makes non-verbal communication (eye contact, posture, body positioning, gestures and attire) more important than your words. In fact, they are six times more powerful than your actual words, which account for only 10% of total communication. - allstardatingtips.com |
