Body Language
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Sensual smile
Any smile is good. But the best smile is a flirtatious smile, with their eyes narrowed and showing just a little teeth, or a mischievous grin. Their eyes should appear more lively or energetic during this smile.
Self-caress
It can be a noticable gesture in which one hand touches their chest in a near-caress or just a light brush of the thigh with their fingertips. This self-caress is often the subconscious anticipation of your touch.
Barrier removal
If something is being held between the two of you, a drink, a table or pillar, the person will adjust themselves to remove it. Examples of this are moving the drink from their chest to their side or repositioning themselves so they aren't blocked from view.
One, two, three, four
Four signals confirm interest and availability from afar. Don't make your move after a single sign. He might be staring at you because he forgot his glasses. She might be preening because a beret just slipped out of her hair. Wait for four signals to ensure their interest is genuine.
Understand the situation
Read the signs and be prepared to act quickly. Take this example. A man catches a woman's eye walking down the street. They hold eye contact a little longer than appropriate and smile. Then she suddenly stops to window shop, readjusts her make-up, or plays with her cell phone. He realizes this is a signal that says, 'I'm interested in meeting you. Let's talk.' While he's only received two signs, if he doesn't approach immediately, she'll continue on her way.
UP-CLOSE AND PERSONAL
Conversation cues
You have recognized the body language signs for attraction, responded, received more signs and approached. Now deep in conversation, there are a number of body language cues you can look for to tell you how you're doing. Reading these cues will show you when they're comfortable, when to change topics, and even when they're lying.
Energetic
If they are alert, energetic and engaged in the conversation - keep going. By eagerly responding to your words, it shows they are interested in the topic. Unless they turn tense or restless, continue whatever you're doing.
Opening posture
When starting a conversation with someone new, people often close their posture. This is done by crossing arms or placing a drink in front of the chest. When they remove these barriers, it is a sign of comfort and trust.
Body leaning
If they lean towards you while you speak, it indicates that they are interested in you or whatever you're saying. But, they will have to straighten their back at some point. Change the conversation only if they begin leaning away from you.
Body mimicking
One way to develop immediate rapport and create a relaxed atmosphere is to match the other person's body language. By doing this, you can also change it. If they have crossed arms, copy their stance, then uncross your arms shortly thereafter to see if they will follow. If you haven't won them over by the second attempt you're probably not going to.
Body positioning
Aiming your body directly at your conversation partner will imply your fascination with what they're saying or doing. Pointing your body away shows growing disinterest. Body positioning is an obvious visual cue, so look for it at periodic points in the conversation.
Pupils
When you see something you like, your pupils dilate (grow larger), to allow more of the sight to reach the brain. The reaction is involuntary and beyond your control. Use this to judge their initial attraction level when you first approach. See if they grow larger if the conversation goes well.
Eye contact
Eye contact is vital in showing interest and building comfort. You should meet the gaze of the person you're talking with between 70 to 80 percent of the time. This shows a high level of interest and isn't seen as staring, which could make them uncomfortable.
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Eye contact, a sensual smile and tilted head are all unspoken signs of interest .
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People always wonder what they should do with their hands. When standing still, pull both arms behind your back, grasping the wrist with one hand. This is an ultra-confident posture that radiates confidence and helps keep perfect posture. Another position is hooking your thumbs in your back pockets. Both keep your back straight, shoulders pulled back and maintaining powerful posture. - allstardatingtips.com |
