Bad Dating Information
Where does it come from?
By Carlos Xuma, All-Star contributor
Updated: 4:19AM, November 1, 2008
I was thinking the other day about men's perceptions about women, and how we "figured out" what it is they're looking for.
I wondered how men could have been so misled regarding this subject, and just where did it come from?
Well, think about it. There are only a few places you could have gotten this information:
LISTENING TO GUYS
Well, as guys, we like advice. We LOVE to give it, even when we don't know what the HELL we're talking about. Really.
I remember being a kid and trying to shoot the crap with my friends about women. All guys have an inherent need to be a know-it-all, and that gets in our way of actually learning. Every guy has a story and seems to "know it" when it comes to women, don't they?
I was in a car with a friend at Lake Tahoe a couple weeks back, and when he found out what I do for men with the ebooks and audio information he was fascinated
It wasn't as if he was jumping up and down (guys don't react that way - we're very coy about letting another guy know we're excited about something.)
But he was interested, because he brought the topic up several times over the next several days.
What made him different was that he asked questions and listened to my advice. He's probably going to go on to rock a lot of women's little worlds.
Guys and gals are FASCINATED by knowledge of the $e*xual game. It's treated as if it is some kind of magic by those who understand it.
I have noticed that guys will tend to look to other guys for advice, or listen in on other conversations, and then use that information to shore up our own understanding.
We assume that all the other guys were born with this knowledge.
But the truth is that most guys' knowledge of women is very faulty, because it's not based on reality. It's based on hit-or-miss hand-me-down wisdom that is not usually very reliable.
ONLY listen to people who are DOING what you want to do.Why?
Why can't you stop yourself?
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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating field and an author of best-selling e-books such as Secrets of the Alpha Male, Approach Women - NOW! and Alpha Immersion. Xuma has been featured in Maxim, Playboy radio and is a favorite of online advice websites. Xuma offers dating help for both men and women and can always be reached at www.datingdynamics.com. - AllStarDatingTips.com |
