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LISTENING TO WOMEN
I think I've coached you guys enough on this one, but it's probably one of the tops in terms of where guys go after listening to other guys for their information.
While you can get some good information on the basics from women (what clothes they like, etc.), for the most part, they DON'T know what REALLY moves them. (Or won't admit it.)
Listen to what a woman says, but train your ear to pick out the BS when you hear it. Because she's most likely only going to give you her "Cinderella" answer. (Prince Charming illusion.)
WATCHING OTHER GUYS
One of the two best ways you can learn, but only if you watch guys who are SUCCESSFUL with women. Most guys watch other turkeys just so they can feel better about not being as bad as they are.
A good friend once said, "If you want to learn something, go to the guy DOING it for lessons. If you want to get rich, go find a guy with a big pile of money. Not the broke stockbroker showing you his 'hot picks.'"
Absolutely, brother. Right on.
Go get yourself a TOP-NOTCH wingman that's good at this stuff, get him to show you what he does, and watch your ability quadruple in just a few nights. (I mean it.)
That is, if you can put aside your ego and apprentice yourself.
WATCHING WOMEN
The best way you can possibly learn is to watch women when they're being brought around to attraction for a man. You'll know it when you see them reacting positively to what a guy does to them.
RESULTS speak here. If you watch a woman and she is NOT moved to interest for a guy, DON'T do what he did. (Or learn how to do it the CORRECT way.)
If you see a guy give flowers and buy dinner for a woman and not get SQUAT for his trouble, then you might want to reconsider your strategy. I did.
If you really watch women and REALLY watch their reactions, and learn how to interpret what's going on in her head, too, you'll begin to understand the REAL deal when it comes to women, seduction, and dating.
Remember this: The only woman that will stay with you over the long run is one that CANNOT stand the thought of being without you just enough to stick around. OR ... she just doesn't have any better choices. She has to want you more than she wants to be on the market again.
Learn how to observe and PAY ATTENTION. Develop your fine sense of interpretation, and learn to watch for the right signals.* Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating and seduction worlds and an author of bestselling e-books such as Secrets of the Alpha Male, Approach Women - NOW! and Alpha Immersion. Xuma offers dating help for both men and women and can be reached at www.datingdynamics.com
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Xuma says attraction is greatly enhanced by sexual tension.
| BUILDING TENSION |
| Embrace your sexuality |
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We are all sexual creatures. It's important people see you as one. Make solid eye contact and flirt to ensure you don't land in the 'let's just be friends zone' later. If you try to be non-sexual to avoid being seen as a threat, you're not going to be seen as potential dating material either. Have singles see you in a sexy, playful and flirtatious way. - AllStarDatingTips.com |
