Decorating For Dating
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But Now Ladies, it's your turn and you'll be surprised to hear your love palace may not be as inviting as you thought. Same exercise, look around your place and answer the following questions:
1) Does your place smell like a perfume factory with copious amounts of room sprays, candles and potpourri?
2) Is Girly-frilly-frill-frill your main decorating theme?
3) Do you have your self-help books and pictures of ex-boyfriends on your shelves?
It's okay if you answered yes to many of the above or all of them. Guys like that your apartment smells different than theirs but they don't like to be overpowered by it. It makes them feel uneasy and sometimes even queasy. So cut back a bit.
Open up your windows and put away all smelly stuff except for the odd candle here and there. It doesn't even have to be a smelly candle - guys like the smell of plain burning candles.
We all love girly stuff but when a guy comes over and sees it, he's only going to think one thing - "this reminds me of trips to Grandma's house where I wasn't allowed to touch anything."
So in an effort to avoid this childhood flashback, remove some of the breakables and decorative pillows. Guys will feel more comfortable sitting down and easing into conversation.
Take a good look at your bookshelf. No I mean a goooood look. If your romance titles outnumber your travel books, take some out. Dr. Phil has to go, for now. And anything related to relationship repair is a no-no. This isn't a permanent move but just another effort to let him feel comfortable at your place.
A bookshelf is the first place many people go to get to know you. And those pictures of you and the girls at that staguette in Las Vegas with Hans from Germany? Put 'em in your drawer.
General rule of thumb for both ladies and men is to just think about the comfort level of the other person. What will they need? What would they appreciate? Then relax and have a fun evening!
* Christine Hart is Canada's leading female Dating Expert & Coach. Drawing on both formal education in communication studies and extensive real-world experience in owning a dating service for 6 years, Christine provides her clients with a road-map to getting results in the dating world.
Christine is frequently called upon by various media and among many, these include feature interviews for Cineplex Odeon Theatres, Much Music, CFCN, CTV, CityTV, GlobalTV, ShawTV, The A-Channel, The Globe & Mail, the "Ask the Dating Expert" talk show on Country 105 and many more.
Christine specializes in private date-coaching, tele-coaching, weekend workshops and various keynotes. Her candid yet professional approach while providing expert advice is what draws so many clients to her. She can be found at www.yourdatecoach.com.
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