Conversation Skills
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The power of questions
Everyone asks questions. But few people ask really good, well-thought-out questions. These questions force us to look deeper into ourselves. They can unearth information about ourselves we didn't even know was there. All great conversations are built by great questions.
The best way to show genuine interest is by not being afraid to dive deep into their answers. You can't be afraid to push past normal conversation limits. Knock them on their heels and push on. Dive even deeper into their responses as they struggle to recover from the last question.
It takes guts to offer them a conversation they'll never forget. It will involve you asking unique questions. It will involve asking personal questions. It will involve taking risks when others play it safe. It's not for the conversationally weak.
ASK
"What's the most breathtaking thing you've ever seen?"
'"If you could be anything you want, what would you choose?"
"If you had to fight someone in here, who would it be?"
DON'T ASK
"Seen any movies lately?"
"What did you do today?"
"Do you know anyone here?"
DO
Blast past small talk
It's important you blast past the small talk as soon as possible. Small talk gets you nowhere because it's boring. Instead, dive in with questions that dig deeper into who they are. Their passions. Their values. Their secrets. Have conversations they've never had before.
Let them be the star
A person's favorite topic is themselves. It doesn't matter if they're a powerful CEO or an Ordinary Joe, everyone has a story. Telling stories allows people to feel like their life matters, their opinions are valuable and that they're special. Use the conversation to illuminate all the things that make them amazing. If they feel like a star talking to you, they'll find you more attractive.
Be a sexual being
We are all sexual creatures. It's important people see you as one. Make solid eye contact and flirt to ensure you don't land in the 'let's just be friends zone' later. If you try to be non-sexual to avoid being seen as a threat, you're not going to be seen as potential dating material either. Have singles see you in a sexy, playful and flirtatious way.
Speak up
Make your voice heard. Too many singles talk too softly. It doesn't matter what you're saying if no one can hear it. Be confident enough in your words to yell them over the roar of the stereo or crowd. Impress other singles with your boldness and vocal capacity.
Look them in the eye
Great conversations start with great eye contact. The eyes are the windows to the soul because they show your true interest and confidence levels. Keep eye contact with your conversation partner at least 70% of the time to assure them you're confident and interested in what they're saying.
Build sexual tension
Talk to, tease and titillate their sexual inhibitions. It is important singles see you as a potential sexual partner without either of you talking about sex. Sexual tension is heightened through flirtatious touch, voice tones, eye contact, facial expressions and body language. Done properly, it can fill a non-sexual conversation with sexual overtones.
Repeat their name
Once you've learned their name, slip it back into the conversation. This will develop some instant camaraderie despite the fact you just met them. People love to hear their name and are more comfortable around those who use it.
Master story-telling
Have a half-dozen colorful stories you can tell. Have each practiced and perfected. Know what words to emphasize. Where to pause. When to hammer home the punch-line. This will allow you to weave one seamlessly into the conversation and appear extra interesting, entertaining and engaging. People love great storytellers as much as great stories.
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Ask amazing questions and blast past boring small talk.
| CONVERSATION TIPS |
| Impress with subtly |
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The best time to reveal something is when someone asks a question. Don't force a topic into the conversation because you want to show off. Blowhards are not attractive. If you want someone to ask you about something, ask them the question you want to be asked. Often they will repeat the question back to you. If they don't take the bait, move on. - allstardatingtips.com |
