Stop being boring
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So what does a 'boring' guy act like?
Well, for starters he acts like he's not comfortable in the situation... Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her opinions all the time. Asking her what she'd like to do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way. That's a good start.
Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you've got the makings for her running as fast as she can and changing her phone number to save herself from another one of your boring calls!
So what's the answer? What's the secret to making her feel attracted to you, and not bored out of her skull? I thought you'd never ask.
Here are a few ideas for starters:
1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on... somewhere that has interesting conversation built in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic, artsy, trendy shops. You can't walk through one of these areas without having an interesting conversation. There are all kinds of interesting things from tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this, and I'd suggest you go check it out.
2. Talk about something that isn't boring. One of my favorite things to do is get her to talk about her life, then find things to make fun of. This is a great opportunity for cocky and funny...
YOU: "So, tell me something interesting."
HER: "Like what?"
YOU: "What, you can't think of even one interesting think about yourself or your life? I think I need to go before this gets any worse..."
You get the idea...
3. If there is a silence, never let it be uncomfortable. I think that it's great to stop talking when you're first getting to know a woman. But don't do it in a way that sends chills up her spine. If the conversation goes cold for a few moments, just pay attention to something else for a minute. Think about something funny to say and laugh to yourself. She'll say "What? What are you laughing about?"... which is a great lead in for about 1,000 different cocky/funny answers.
If the conversation stops, be cool. Just act like you're with a friend, act totally casual, and pick it back up later. Just don't act nervous and uncomfortable!
4. Don’t be predictable. There is an area of the human brain called "Broca's Region" that is constantly anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting the predictable. In other words, the more predicable you are, the faster you will be considered boring.
Learn to say random things. Disagree with her... (without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell her that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog...If you’re boring, read a couple of books on how to tell stories… or get a book on comedy to learn how to be funny and tell jokes. Just do whatever you have to do to avoid being predictable.
* David DeAngelo is an American entrepreneur, author and dating advisor. He is the founder of Double Your Dating, a company providing dating advice to men and women. DeAngelo is one of the world's most recognized names in the dating industry, offering downloadable e-books, audio CD and training DVDs to singles looking to improve their social skills. He can be found at www.doubleyourdating.com.
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