Get Over Your Fears
Stop being afraid of attractive singles
By David DeAngelo, All-Star contributor
Updated: 8:16AM, May 1, 2008
FEAR.
Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what she might do if I start talking to her. Fear of what other guys would think if they knew that we needed help with women.
Fear of what women would think if they knew that we needed help with women. Fear of admitting that we're afraid ...and about 100 others.
But what exactly is fear?
And why is it such a problem?
And what can be done to overcome it?
Well, let's start with what fear is, then we'll move on to some techniques to get past it.
I once heard a great definition of FEAR:
- False
- Evidence
- Appearing
- Real
In other words, the things that you feel fear about are usually not real. It's usually just "false evidence".
You also might think back about the last 10 things you felt fear around. Now, ask yourself... Did any of those things come true?
In most of the cases, you'll find that the fear did not come true.
I heard once that something like 98% of the things that people fear and worry about never come true. I've found this to be true in my own life, of course.
Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It's an amazing and wonderful emotion... because it can help save your life in certain situations
A hundred thousand years ago, when we were running around in the desert, we needed powerful, motivating emotions like fear to save our lives.
When you feel fear (especially if it's a response to real physical danger) you'll notice that some amazing things happen.
Your eyes open up wider so you can see better, adrenaline pumps into your body, your heart beats fast to deliver blood to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous processes are triggered.
The problem is when we experience fear at times when there is no real physical danger.
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David DeAngelo is an American entrepreneur, author and dating advisor. He is the founder of Double Your Dating, a company providing dating advice to men and women. DeAngelo is one of the world's most recognized names in the dating industry, offering downloadable e-books, audio CD and training DVDs to singles looking to improve their social skills. He can be found at www.doubleyourdating.com. - allstardatingtips.com |
