How Guys Mess Up 1st Dates
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Let's say I'm walking down the street with a girl to have a cup of tea. Let's assume that she and I just met the night before, I got her number, and now we're walking from my place to tea.
On the way in the door to the coffee shop, she trips over the doorway.
I might look at her, shake my head in an "overly dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say "This relationship just isn't going to work".
Then, let's say fifteen minutes later she spills her tea on the table and herself.
I'll shake my head again and say "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?".
In other words, I'm communicating the very OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife". I'm saying "I'm so comfortable around you that I can even make fun of you without caring what you think of me".
Does this sound a little crazy?
Good. It should.
But trust me.
If you spend a couple of hours having regular, normal conversation... being Cocky & Funny, enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and generally demonstrating that you could care less how things turn out, you'll be FAR more likely to take things further than if you act as if she might be the love of your life and you wind up acting so nervous, stilted, and DUMB that she runs away.
So here it is your bit of dating advice... one thing that most guys who are unsuccessful with women do that screws things up... one thing to AVOID:
DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.
Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has qualities that are going to annoy you, then point them out (in a Cocky & Funny way, of course).
Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if you do.
Another bit of dating advice:
Most guys don't "get" women.
And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN how to meet women.
They don't realize that all the tricks in the world aren't going to help them if they don't UNDERSTAND what's "going on".
That's where my free dating advice newsletter comes in, along with my eBook, "Double Your Dating"...The first portion of the book is entirely focused on your "Inner Game". In other words, it's focused on helping you "get" what's going on.
This book goes into DEPTH about all aspects of psychology and behavior of men and women... and teaches you from the ground up. You must get rid of some of your bad programming before you can get GOOD programming.
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* David DeAngelo is an American entrepreneur, author and dating advisor. He is the founder of Double Your Dating, a company providing dating advice to men and women. DeAngelo is one of the world's most recognized names in the dating industry, offering downloadable e-books, audio CD and training DVDs to singles looking to improve their social skills. He can be found at www.doubleyourdating.com.
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