Dating Difficulties
Why dating became difficult
By Neal Talbot
All-Star contributor
Updated: 3:17PM, February 14, 2008
There have never been so many singles. There has never been a time so flooded with dating advice. Never have singles spent more money on dating. Yet, the divide between single men and women has never been greater.
When did dating become so difficult? Why did it become so difficult? How come fewer singles are finding that special someone?
The answer is both simple - bad advice.
And complex - a rapidly changing society.
Most people get their first dating advice from their parents. Most likely, it's from their mother. Her ideals are drilled into your mind as you reach adolescence. She advises you on what to do to spark attraction and land a date with that beautiful boy or girl from school.
Unfortunately, that advice is almost always wrong.
Your parents love you. But few have evolved to meet the dating needs of the following generation. Their dating experience is outdated. Their knowledge is no longer relevant. Their advice is often more harmful than helpful.
Times were simpler, choices fewer and expectations lower, in decades past. Most parents haven't adjusted to today's views on dating. What used to be considered 'sweet' is now considered 'stalking.' What used to earn a wedding ring, now isn't enough to convince someone to pick up the phone.
Just the technological divide alone can be daunting. Teenagers today can't get advice on how to date on the internet from parents who've never been on the internet. Thus, millions of young men and women are given outdated and unsuccessful dating advice by their parents.
Armed with this parental advice they storm the dating world, unsuccessful at most every turn. They try even harder, earning even worse results. They teach themselves dating is difficult. The opposite sex is difficult to understand. And worst of all, they start to question themselves - not their parent's advice.
Parents then compound their children's dating troubles by uttering the most damaging words plaguing singles today, when they discover their dating advice isn't working. Instead of questioning the quality of their own advice, they tell their child, "Don't worry. When it's supposed to happen, it will happen."
The truth is - it won't. If you're not out there actively looking and approaching other singles, you're going to stay single... for a really long time.
To make matters worse, this outdated dating information is spread by newspapers, magazines and movies. Each offers rules, complex game plans, methods of sultry seduction and unrealistic expectations. They offer everything but results. They focus on everything but making a real connection.
The media's quest for fair and balanced reporting compounds the problem even further. Even if an idea is ridiculous, potentially damaging, it is still publicized.
This has seen singles bombarded with advice equivalent to the flashy fad diets that are wildly popular, but never seem to work. Bad dating ideas spread worldwide overnight. Their news value always outweighs their results.
It's not surprising millions of singles feel like they've been marooned at sea without the skills to steer their ship or a map to know where they are going. Common sense seems to have abandoned the dating world. Outdated advice has not stepped aside for the new.
Millions of singles are working with dating advice that hasn't caught up to the demands and expectations of today's singles. Because of this, they believe dating is extremely difficult, they're questioning their self-worth and they're losing hope of finding that 'special someone.'
That no longer has to be the case. The information on All-Star Dating Tips can put any single back on course. It can show them how easy dating is. It can show them how amazing they really are. And it can even re-educate parents so they give their children dating advice that actually works.
So break free from the dating ideals of the past and embrace what works in the 21st Century. And make dating easy once again.
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