Using Your Social Resume
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The qualities of the 'Three Social Flavors' taste like this, each 'optimal positive quality' is contrasted against it's 'polar opposite', and the 'over-doing-it' quality. These three qualities compose one Attribute Family.
Most people are having social problems because they are fixated on one single attribute, when they need to consider the entire Attribute Family. The trick is to find the optimal balance between the anti-social 'polar opposite', and the anti-social 'over-doing-it' quality to practice the socially 'optimal positive quality'. A handful of these 143 Attribute Families are listed here for your consideration.
Remember, each line item lists the 1. Optimal-Positive, 2. Polar-Opposite, and 3. Over-Doing-It quality in the Attribute Family.ATTRACTIVE QUALITIES
Appearance Oriented Qualities
Maintaining Hygiene, not Slovenly, but not Sterile
Neat, not Unkempt, but not Fastidious
Fashionable, not Plain, but not Outlandish
Healthy & Active, not Sickly, but not a Health-Nut
Fit Physically, Emotionally, & Spiritually, not Sick & Broken, but not Having to be Perfect
Attitude Oriented Qualities
Radiant, not Shrinking, but not Overpowering
Outgoing, not Withdrawn, but not Erratic
Outspoken, not Restrained, but not Bulldozing
Playful & Teasing, not Prim & Proper, but not Hurtful
Fun & Funny, not Somber, but not Clowny
Confident, not Insecure, but not Arrogant
Smiling/Laughing, not a Sourpuss, but not Frenzied
Present, not Absent, but not Eager
Expressive & Touching, not Blah, but not Frantic
High Self Esteem, Not Low Self Esteem, but not Overconfident
Easy-Going, not Up-Tight, but not Unmotivated
Positive, not Negative, but not Impractical
Optimistic, not Pessimistic & Worrying, but not Unrealistic
Opinioned, not Apathetic but not Opinionated
Spontaneous, not Mundane, but not Capricious
Adventuresome, not Reserved, but not Reckless
Edgy, not Sheltered, but not Dangerous
Behavioral Oriented Qualities
Interesting, not Boring, but not Egotistic
Emotional, not Robotic, but not Overly-Dramatic
Articulate, not Bumbling, but not Pedantic
Assertive, not Milquetoast, but not Aggressive
Decisive, not Indecisive, but not Overbearing
Contemporary, not Dated, but not Gossiping
RAPPORATIVE QUALITIES
Attitude Oriented Qualities
Centered, not Imbalanced, but not Restrictive
Calm, not Anxious & Irritable, but Limp
Composed, not Agitated, but not Disimpassioned
Genuine & Authentic not Fake, but not Caustic
Authoritative, not Illegitimate, but not Phony
Honest, not Deceitful, but not Rude
Open & Trusting, not Closed, but not Wearing Your Heart on Your Sleeve
Comfortable, not Stuffy, but not Immodest
Friendly, not Antagonistic, but not Clingy
Reflective, not Thoughtless, but not Antisocial
Self-Aware of your Highest Value, not Ignorant & Lost, but not Self-Absorbed
Gracious & Thankful, not Unappreciative, but not Overwhelmed
Behavioral Oriented Qualities
Humble, not Boastful, but not Meek
Agreeable, not Quarrelsome, but not a 'Yes Man'
Intelligent, not Dumb, but not Nerdy
Intellectual, not Idiotic, but not Confusing
Thoughtful, not Inconsiderate, but not Lost
Relaxed & Chill, not Hyper, but not Dead
Determined & Deliberate, not Restless/Fidgety, but not Sloth-like
Inviting, not Rejecting, but not Pulling
Accessible, not Unattainable, but not Free
Dependable, not Irresponsible, but not Spineless
Responsible, not Blaming, but not Taking Credit
Trusting, not Suspicious, but not Naïve
Loyal, not Treacherous, but not Dependent
Moral, not Unethical, but not Condescending
ROMANTIC QUALITIES
Behavioral Oriented Qualities
Romantic, not Frigid, but not Sappy
Creative, not Stale, but not "Out There"
Artistic, not Distasteful, but not Baroque
Flirtatious, not Shy, but not Sluttish & Creepy
Alluring, not Repellant, but not Easy
Charming, not Offensive, but not Proud
Sensual, not Shut-Down, but not Mushy
Sweet, not Foul, but not Corny
Benevolent, Not Jealous, but not Disconnected
Fantastical, not Prosaic, but not Delusional
- This has been an excerpt from the e-book LEVERAGE YOUR SOCIAL RESUME. To download the complete e-book - CLICK HERE.
* Don Diego Garcia is a Stylelife Academy co-founder and contributor to the New York Times Bestselling self-help book RULES OF THE GAME - MASTER THE GAME IN 30 DAYS. Diego is a Master Personal and Business Coach who specializes in custom practices for you to magnify your most attractive, most rapportive, and most romantic self. Diego can be reached at the StyleLife Academy.
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