Physical Touch Tips
The role of touch in attraction
By Lance Mason, All-Star contributor
Updated: 1:33PM, November 1, 2008
I don't usually read daily newspapers, but one article I read a while in the San Francisco Chronicle on physical touch caught my attention.
The article is titled "Wives Under Stress Are Soothed By Husbands' Touch, Study Finds"
Check this out from the article:
"The soothing effect of the touch could be seen in scans of areas deep in the brain that are involved in registering emotional and physical alarm."
The REALLY interesting part for me, is that the the 'touch' they are referring to in this study,
is hand holding.
Now, if you've ever seen me teach kino, I show you how to be holding hands with a woman within the first three minutes of meeting her.
There are other important reasons for holding her hand, but as this research confirms, you're actions will have an INSTANT soothing affect on her.
More importantly, she will recognize that you are a man who is comfortable around women. After all, why else would you be touching her like that from the MOMENT you met her.
Listen, it took me years of trial and error to figure out that casual touching, and hand holding in particular had a massive effect on my success with women. And here finally is scientific PROOF as to why that works so well.
To be fair, the researchers noted that this effect is many times more powerful with married couples, but even a complete stranger STILL had an effect on the womans brain.
Just think about that for a minute... you as a total stranger, can trigger a soothing effect on any woman, DEEP in her subconscious mind, simply through the use of a simple touch.
Why on earth would you not touch EVERY woman you wanted to meet?
Look, I know it's not that easy for MOST guys. Heck, most of us have been taught it's impolite or we didn't grow up in the kind of social circle where people touch each other.
In fact, it's one of the single BIGGEST problems guys have with women, yet when I can get a guy to start touching women right away, the results are nothing short of amazing.
In order to get comfortable touching women, you have to get comfortable with touching EVERYONE. So starting now, every time you greet someone... touch them.
It can be a handshake, a shoulder pat, a hug, whatever, just TOUCH them.
Same thing when you want someone's attention, use a light tap on the arm.
Also, NOTICE how 'touchy people' are with others. ] Learn from them. And when you're at a nightclub or a party, notice the men that are good with women and how they will touch ALL the women.
The goal is simple, use touch as part of the way you COMMUNICATE so it becomes easy and 'natural' for you.
Then when it comes to touching women, you won't feel uncomfortable with it
* Lance Mason is one of the world's most recognized and respected dating coaches. Mason is the lead-instructor at Pickup 101, a company created to help men improve their social skills and make them more attractive to women. Mason and the rest of Pickup 101 can be found at www.pickup101.com.
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Lance Mason is one of the world's most recognized and respected dating coaches. Mason is the lead-instructor at Pickup 101, a company created to help men improve their social skills and make them more attractive to women. Pickup 101 travells around the globe earning rave reviews at every stop. Mason and the rest of Pickup 101 can be found at www.pickup101.com. - AllStarDatingTips.com |
