Fighting fear with fact
Too many singles are running scared
By Neal Talbot, All-Star contributor
Updated: 8:05PM, February 14, 2008
Fear has infected the dating world. It has poisoned the minds of millions of single men and women. It has them walking scared. Afraid to approach. Afraid to interact. Afraid to take action.
The fear of rejection is slowly overwhelming the dating world. Singles have become so terrified of someone not returning their interest, they are no longer interacting with other singles.
For many singles, the fear of rejection is so great, they convince themselves it's not worth it. That the potential damage to their ego is too severe. That the risks of being vulnerable outweigh any and all positives.
So they don't approach. They don't interact. They tell themselves an unsuccessful interaction will have everyone laughing at them. Or make them look like a loser. Or lessen their value as a human being.
These beliefs couldn't be any further from the truth. Their fear couldn't be any more misguided. The only thing singles should fear is arriving home and kicking themselves for not approaching someone they were interested in.
Meeting new singles isn't risky. It's actually a no-lose proposition. If the interaction goes well, you might land a date with an attractive single. If not, you're no worse off than if you never approached.
No one is going to laugh at you if your interaction doesn't go well. It won't make you look like a loser. The only thing interacting with other attractive singles will do is make you look cool, calm and confident.
Living in fear is no way to live. And it's no way to date. If you wait for attractive singles to fall effortlessly into your lap, you might be waiting for some time. You might have to wait for years.
In the meantime, you'll become too reliant on your social circle. You won't date much. And this lack of dating activity will put too much pressure on you when you finally do land a date.
It's time singles put the fear of rejection behind them. It's time they started toughening up their fragile egos. It's time they start to flex their social muscles. It's time they fought their fear with facts.
To do this, singles have to drill three important facts into their brain: You have nothing to lose by approaching other singles. If someone isn't interested in an interaction, it doesn't say anything about who you are. And the only thing you should fear is going home and kicking yourself for not approaching someone who interested you.
Singles have to realize the fear of rejection has no place in dating and it can be overcome in two simple steps.
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Neal Talbot is the President of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises Ltd. The former reporter - turned dating coach - created AllStarDatingTips.com to help improve the dating lives of millions of single men and women all around the globe. Talbot is also the author of All-Star Dating & Attraction. He can be found discussing dating in the All-Star Dating Tips forum every Monday night at 9 PM EST. - allstardatingtips.com |
