Dealing with rejection
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Remember why you're awesome
In times where you're facing rejection, it's important to remember what makes you awesome. Why your loved ones cherish your presence. Why anyone would be lucky to have you in their life. Instead of dwelling on why something didn't work out, take a moment to write out a list of your positive traits instead. Keep your focus on the positive as much as you can because a positive outlook always earns positive results.
Keep positive
Handling rejection and overcoming it always involves keeping a positive attitude. A positive attitude helps prevent you from feeling sorry for yourself, prevents you from getting scared off, prevents you from taking it personally and keeps you looking at things from a proper perspective.
A person wasn't interested in talking with you - well go talk to another one. No second date - well go get another first date. Positive people don't let something as simple as a simple rejection ruin their day or slow their path to finding their special someone.
Reflect
If you face continual rejection it’s important you step back and take a look at why that might be happening. Are you coming on too strong? Are you struggling to make conversation? Is it obvious you’re nervous? A key part of improving your social skills is the ability to reflect… and evolve.
If you can find what you’re doing wrong and quickly correct it you’re not going to have to face as much rejection. So don’t be afraid to step away from a situation, visualize what you were doing, find out what you did wrong, understand how to correct, they go out there and correct it..
Think of it as a favor
The worst thing that can happen in dating is not rejection, but to get strung along, thinking the person really likes you when they don't. If a first or second date doesn't turn into anything more, be thankful.
This may seem strange, but having one of you acknowledge an incompatibility early on - rather than later on - is a huge time-saver. The brush-off allows you to chalk it up to experience and move on to someone who is more appreciative of your time and energy.
Lastly…
Learning how to handling rejection without damaging your self-confidence – whether it’s in the dating or business world – is an exceptionally valuable skill. You’re not going to win at everything you do, but that doesn’t mean you have to look bad doing it. Those who can handle rejection and not lose a skip in their step, find themselves not losing very often, because they have learned to hold their heads high no matter what. It’s important everyone learn this skill.
Nothing is going to change the fact you’re awesome – unless you stop believing it’s true. No one can make you feel bad – but yourself. So don’t let any sort of rejection – big or small – rattle your confidence level. Remember, you can't be everyone's idea of a perfect match. That wouldn't be fair to everyone else. But be sure of this, the man or woman of your dreams is out there. And the less time you spend worrying about or dwelling on rejection, the less time you'll have to find them.
* Neal Talbot is the CEO of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises Ltd, creator of AllstarDatingTips.com and author of the best-selling e-book All-Star Dating & Attraction (both men and women versions). He can be found answering questions in the forum of www.allstardatingtips.com.
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