The Seven Habits
of highly effective daters
By Neal Talbot, All-Star contributor
Updated: 8:05PM, April 1, 2008
All great daters share seven traits that ensure they're constantly successful in the dating world. Each of these traits is easy for anyone to develop, take minimal time to develop, and improve every aspect of one's life... and are missing from the social skill set of millions of singles. It's time that changed.
This powerful set of seven are all within your grasp. Just realizing how important these traits are in the dating world can dramatically improve one's success rate. Adding them all but ensures your social calendar will be filled. Each is discussed below and advises you how to master each terrific trait.
1. The smile
The quickest way to win singles over is with a smile. A smile shows them you're confident, positive, happy and non-threatening in less than a second. Those who don't smile simply aren't successful daters. Those who smile have instantly given themselves a better chance of meeting and attracting more singles.
Why is something as simple as a smile so powerful? It projects everything singles want in a partner (confidence, a positive outlook, passion, happiness, optimism, etc.) Those who always wear their smile attract more attention because singles hope your energy and confidence will rub off on them.
Learn: To smile at every occasion. Make sure the first thing you put on every morning is your smile. Even those days when you find yourself struggling to keep positive, keep smiling and more often than not something will happen (an attractive single smiles back) that will give you reason to smile.
2. Confident body language
A person's body language - their posture, walk, and gestures - can create a powerful first impression. Having confident body language allows you to control how you are seen by other singles. If you stand, walk and gesture with a powerful grace, they're going to see you as powerful.
Singles who have confident body language move with an air of sexuality that shows other singles they're available, use eye contact, posture, body positioning, gestures and touch to indicate interest, and can escalate body language signals with other singles, allowing them to attract positive attention without saying a word.
Learn: To say all the right things without saying a single word. Perfect your posture: stand with your back straight, shoulders pulled back, chest out, chin up, stomach pulled in, hands at your sides and feet planted squarely on the floor. Let your body show off your confidence.
3. Comfortable in own skin
An effective dater knows who they are and doesn't try to be something else. One of the biggest singles people make is to try to be what they think other people want them to be, instead of being confident enough to themselves. One looks like you're trying to suck up, and the other oozes of confidence.
Those who are comfortable in their own skin aren't constantly seeking approval. They have their own opinions. They make up their own mind. They never try to pretend they're someone else. They understand singles want confident, quality people - not patsies or yes men/women - who won't offer a challenge or any excitement.
Learn: To be comfortable with who you are. No one likes a fake or someone who always says what they think everyone wants to here. Stand up and make sure everyone knows you're a real person - not just another pretty face.
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Neal Talbot is the President of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises Ltd. The former reporter - turned dating coach - created AllStarDatingTips.com to help improve the dating lives of millions of single men and women all around the globe. Talbot is also the author of All-Star Dating & Attraction. He can be found discussing dating in the All-Star Dating Tips forum every Monday night at 9 PM EST. - allstardatingtips.com |
