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4. Positive attitude
Singles can't help but be attracted to positive men and women. Positive people act like magnets. Wherever they're standing in a room, a crowd follows to bathe in their positive glow. The world can be a negative place, full of disappointment and failure. People are naturally attracted to positive people because they make us feel good about ourselves. They make us feel safe. They make us feel special.
Singles always look forward to meeting people who will give them positive re-enforcements. They feel stronger, sexier in the person's presence. Their ideas seem smarter. Life seems easier. For most singles, a man or woman wearing a big smile and projecting a positive outlook appears twice as attractive as one who doesn't.
Learn: To find the bright side of everything. Spend time discovering what makes each person special and tell them why that is. Tell stories that uplift the human spirit. Remind everyone around you what a great place the world can be and what an important part they play in it.
5. Conversationalist
Everyday conversations are used to exchange information. In the dating world, conversations are used to create connections. The conversation is a way for both of you to connect on a deeper level by finding shared passions and ideals. A great conversation skips the small talk and finds ways for both you and them to be fascinating.
To do this you have to have a genuine interest in the person and topic discussed. Then all you have to execute the five steps to a successful conversation; opening, passion, connection, comfort and close. You have to know how to walk the walk... and talk the talk. A great conversationalist does both with ease.
Learn: To take a genuine interest in everyone you talk with. If you take a real interest in your conversation partner, their passions, and what makes them special, you can have them eating out of the palm of your hand in no time.
6. Great listener
Strangely enough, it will be your listening skills, not your speaking ability, which will set you apart from other singles. Only by listening will you be able to come up with great questions. And great questions can allow you to learn more about someone in five minutes than their friends will in five years.
Everyone asks questions. But few people ask really good, well-thought-out questions. These questions force us to look deeper into ourselves. They can unearth information about ourselves we didn't even know was there. All great conversations are built by great questions.
Learn: How to listen. Most people make the mistake of trying to impress others by talking about how amazing they are. What really impresses other singles is those who allow them to showcase exactly why they're special. Remember, everyone's favorite topic is themselves. So keep your mouth closed and your ears open.
7. Lives an attractive life
Everyone loves those who live exciting and interesting lives. Doing so gives you a HUGE advantage over other singles. Lives full of adventure, passion, unpredictability, humor and excitement are lusted at by other singles who want a taste of that in their own life. A great dater lives a life that others wish they had.
You don't have to be musician, movie star or James Bond to live an interesting life. You have to have passions, embrace your passion and chase after them. And it doesn't have to be your job. It could be that you coach youth sports, build homes for the homeless, or simple as that you're learning how to surf or read to children in the hospital.
Learn: To chase your dreams. Singles chase after other singles that are confident enough to pursue their passions. It adds excitement and adventure to the relationship... a huge plus in a world of sameness. So pursue you dreams and help yourself land the dream girlfriend or boyfriend of your dreams.* Neal Talbot is the CEO of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises Ltd, creator of AllstarDatingTips.com and author of the best-selling e-book All-Star Dating & Attraction (both men and women versions). He can be found answering questions in the forum of www.allstardatingtips.com.
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Positive emotional states can be passed from one person to another. Ever wonder when you smile at someone, they can't help but smile back. Being positive is the most contagious emotion because everyone wants to feel good. Everyone wants to have a good time. So use a positive attitude to lift up the spirits of all those around you. - allstardatingtips.com |
