Phone Numbers & First Calls
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Exchanging numbers
Always come prepared and try to slip a little fun into the number exchange. Have a piece of paper or business card to write on, but surprise them with your pen. Instead of the ordinary pen, offer them a tiny, stainless steel pen to jot their number down with. Or a crazy SpongeBob Squarepants pen (say your little cousin gave it to you). The key is to have the pen mesh perfectly with your personality or shock them with something completely different.
Or toss away the idea of pens and paper and take advantage of technology. Have them type their number into your cell phone. It's the easiest way to collect numbers. Camera phones can even include a photo of them. Just make sure they include their name and you remember their name. As an added bonus, you're less likely to lose your cell phone that a slip of paper or notepad.
Easing fears
Ease their fears by voicing them. Only accuse them of doing all the things they fear to you. Tease them about how they're probably call you fifty times over the next two days, leave graphic messages and text love notes. This will immediately erase their fears because you're showing you understand the potential pitfalls of giving out your phone number.
Slow exit
Don't leave immediately after getting their number. Finish the story you interrupted. Start a new conversation. Tease them about how much they're going to miss you. Talk to them for at least another couple minutes before making your exit. Continuing the conversation will help ease any fears they have about you.
If you leave immediately after you get their number, it will look like that's all you were after. Ensure them it was the connection you developed that made you ask for the number, not the need for a personal ego boost. They should have no doubt the conversation was your main goal and making a connection and getting their number was just the icing on the cake.
Instant date prep
If you want to dramatically improve the quality of your first call - jot down some notes on your initial interaction. Personal information. Physical details. The sound of their laugh. The nicknames you made up for each other. Anything that will be useful when you call her. If you don't have a notepad, phone your answering machine and list them off so you can write them down later.
Being able to call and immediately bring them back into your previous conversation will remind them how much fun they had with you. If you can talk about their beautiful brown eyes, charming laugh, and stunning outfit they'll feel like a star. They'll feel sexy. They'll feel appreciated. And they'll be more than happy to set up a date.
Phone number vs. email address
Which is better? There's not much debate. It's the phone number. If you've already met someone in person, the number gives you a better chance of seeing them again quickly. There is too much drag time in the online world.
MAKING THE CALL
When to call
Now that you've got their phone number, the question you're asking yourself is when to call. The length of time before you make the first call is based only on the strength of your interaction - not a set of rules. So use your common sense.
If they had had a couple of drinks and you only talked with them for ten minutes, odds are they're not going to remember you for very long. If you had an amazing conversation, made a connection and talked for more than an hour, they'll probably remember you for the rest of the week.
If you play hard-to-get after a weak conversation, they'll have forgotten you by the time you call. If you had a powerful conversation, odds are they'll agree to meet anytime you call. But don't be ridiculous. If you found someone you really like, don't wait two weeks to call. They might have found someone else by then.
Phone etiquette
Treat everyone like an old friend on the phone. Be calm, casual and cool. If you're calling to line up a date, tease, flirt, joke and have a good time. Recreate that positive energy from when you first met. Remind them exactly why they gave you their phone number.
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Quickly put their number and picture in your camera phone.
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Use a camera phone to put faces with names and numbers. There's no reason to rely on your memory when you can rely on technology. If you're landing dates in bars and clubs, the camera phone can help you remember exactly who you met when alcohol dulls your memory banks. It can provide you with a sober second look before you call. - allstardatingtips.com |
