Finding Attractive Singles
Find amazing singles all around you
By Neal Talbot, All-Star contributor
Updated: 1:52PM, September 1, 2008
Millions of singles complain they never meet anyone. They're right. Unfortunately, it's their own fault. Singles who don't meet new people aren't actively looking or making themselves available. Single men and women are everywhere and they're easy to find.
Singles looking for dates should ask themselves; did I talk to anyone in line while waiting for coffee? Did I talk to anyone at the crosswalk? Did I talk to anyone at the video store? If not, it's time to get more active. It's time to hang out in singles hot-spots. It's time to start conversations and spark attraction.
For best results, pick the spots you're most comfortable in. Spots that showcase your strengths. If you're a coffee expert, hang out in coffee shops. If you're a wine connoisseur look for singles at wine tasting events. Go to areas where you'll bump into singles with common interests. Dates will follow.
The dating experts at All-Star Dating Tips have listed the top single-rich spots to start your search. The list outlines more than a dozen of the best spots to find singles, why each spot is popular, the best times to meet singles, and provides you with a conversation starter for each location.
Bar/Nightclub
For the last three decades, the bar has been the first spot singles took their search for that 'special someone.' The mixture of loud music, frenzied dancing, stylish clothing and alcohol consumption draws in millions of singles every year. Yet, the bar is one of the worst places to meet people. It is a world of un-reality laced with high expectations and poor results.
The bar is a mix of loosened inhibitions and fierce competition. Too much alcohol can lead to interactions you can't remember and conversations in which you make a fool of yourself. And the numbers are against you. You may have another hundred people competing for the same attractive single you've got your eye on. There are just too many people competing for the same person
The bar is also unpredictable. A friend can materialize out of nowhere and pull them away. Their group may change venues before you can make a connection. The music may be too loud to have a decent conversation. And after hours of being hit on by singles with no social skills, their defences are going to be up. Having an amazing conversation in the bar is usually ten times more difficult than in the coffee shop across the street.
Get There: Early. Approach them first and be the benchmark they compare everyone else against. If you make a good impression, sparked some attraction and had an engaging conversation... odds are no one else is going to match up.
Conversation starter: "What's the worst pickup line you've heard tonight?" - To someone who has just chased away a hapless suitor. Go into a conversation on some of the worst pickup lines you've heard. It's a fun, light conversation that shows them other singles are attracted to you.
Coffee Shops
Millions of singles start their day with a cup of coffee. It only takes a couple minutes to brew a cup at home, but most head to the nearest Starbucks. Realize people don't subject themselves to slow service and long line-ups just for the coffee. Whether consciously or subconsciously, people go to coffee shops in the hope of meeting someone new or at least having an engaging conversation.
Strike up a conversation while waiting in line. Sit down beside someone and comment about the book they're reading. Don't be afraid to be the star of your favorite coffee shop. The person everyone loves and wants to talk to. Be a friend to everyone and dramatically expand your social network.
It's also a good idea to become friends or at least be on a first name basis with staff. Being able to call them by their first name will show the other singles in line you're a naturally friendly person. That way when you approach them, you won't be seen as a threat. You'll be seen as both friendly and intriguing because you seem to know everyone.
Get There: Weekday mornings before 9:30 a.m., weekday evenings after 7 p.m. and anytime on the weekends. Catch singles just before work, after work or on their days off.
Conversation starter: "What type of muffin would you suggest?" - While waiting in line. Follow it with "Why?" and "So you've tried all the muffins in here?" If not, tease them about trying to give you bad advice. It's a fun and light conversation.
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The bar is no longer the best place to find other attractive singles.
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Knowledge is power. Visit locations that allow you to showcase your brain-power and watch your success rate skyrocket. If you've tried all the muffins in Starbucks and see someone struggling on which flavor to choose - offer some friendly advice. If you've taken animal training - offer to help teach their dog how to catch the Frisbee on command. - allstardatingtips.com |
