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Work
You can't help but meet other singles at work. Whether it's in your office, in your building or meetings with clientele, you meet attractive singles through work. The question is should you act on those impulses? Yes. And no. People you work with directly should usually be off-limits. Everyone else - with the exception of the boss's daughter - should be fair game. Just be smart about it.
Dating someone in the same department is risky. There can be rules against it, it can damage workplace credibility and can make you the topic of water cooler gossip. While they seem easy at first, work relationships are the toughest to maintain. Spending all your time together can lead to stagnation and boredom. And break-ups can be disastrous. Bad break-ups have ruined careers.
Dating someone who you only occasionally work with is preferred. Pick someone at work you don't run into more than once or twice a week. This way you'll still have all the excitement of meeting someone relatively new. You can ask them, "How was work today?" without knowing. And if things don't work out, you don't have to see them everyday.
Get there: Normal working hours, because if you don't arrive on time your boss is going to fire you.
Conversation starter: "Do you want to grab a coffee sometime and talk about anything but work." This is a friendly invite that hints at possible romance, but allows both to avoid awkwardness if there are no sparks and nothing happens.
Movie Theatre
It's not just couples that hit the theatres. Singles love watching the latest summer blockbuster just as much as married couples do. It may never have occurred to you that you can actually land dates at the movie theatre. At $10 a movie you should get more than just a padded seat and sticky floors. So use it as an opportunity to search for singles.
The first thing you want to do after watching a movie is talk about it. Did the ending surprise you? Were the characters fully developed? Were the special effects mind-blowing? Singles often don't have anyone to immediately talk about the movie with. So all you have to do is ask them what they thought of the movie.
If you hit it off, you can sit down and have a coffee with them, or if the theatre is inside a mall, you can go window-shopping. The theatre usually has a number of great instant-date options.
Get there: Weekday evenings between 7-9 p.m. Weekends noon-10 p.m. Show up at least ten to fifteen minutes before the movie starts to look for singles to approach before or after the show.
Conversation starter: "What did you think of the movie?" - While walking out of the theatre. Yes, it's really that easy.
Yoga
The mixture of meditation and putting yourself in unnatural positions is no exercise fad. It's the main fitness alternative to the gym. Yoga draws millions of singles to workout studios every week. The bad news for women is the ratio of men to women is seven to one in favor of the men. The good news guys, is a seven to one ratio of women to men.
A key in yoga class is to be seen. Move your mat close to and within the field of vision of the person you're interested in. Only once they see you're interested in yoga, can you make light conversation. And once you're on a friendly level, you can take a step towards dating. Like the gym, it's exercise first, getting a date second.
Be patient. If you attend the same yoga class every week, odds are the same people will be there. Develop a couple friends, including the person you're interested in, before making a move. That way it will be the love of yoga, not your search for singles, which brought the two of you together.
Get there: Weekday evenings between 7-9 p.m. Weekends noon-9 p.m. Show up at least five to ten minutes before the class starts to look for singles to approach after class is over.
Conversation starter: "Do you promise not to laugh at me?" followed by, "How did I do?" - If you're a beginner. "So what do you like to do other than meditation and stretching?" - If you're a yoga regular.
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Dating is a no-risk proposition... unless it's done at work. That's why dating outside of the office is preferred. But if you're going to date at work - be smart about it. Be discreet. Treat them just like another co-worker when you're on the clock. Save the make-out sessions until you're at home. Trade them for sly smirks or flirtatious winks while at work. - allstardatingtips.com |
