How to Date Younger Men
Five things you need to know
By Susan Winter, All-Star contributor
Updated: 1:33PM, July 1, 2008
If you're thinking about dating a younger man, congratulations. Far too many centuries have limited women's choices. With younger men added to the romantic game board, every woman increases her opportunity for love and romance.
As a relationship expert in this specific field of research, I've witnessed a tremendous shift in societal perception over the last ten years. What was once thought of as unusual, has now become common place.
Our current state of social consciousness has finally allowed all women an expanded freedom of choice. No, you don't have to be Demi or Madonna. You don't have to be rich or beautiful. You simply have to be open to the idea, and willing to see younger men as an additional option for partnership.
While the basis of all dating is still the connection between two individuals, this romantic design contains some variations. To enjoy the best results, here are five things you need to know:
Be open to the possibility
In order to date a younger man, a woman must first attract a younger man into her life. How does that happen? The answer is simple. Be open to the possibility.
Human beings possess an amazing internal computer system. All of our thoughts eventually become reality. Whatever we allow into our mind, will occur in our life. If you want to date a younger man, first allow the thought to exist. It's like selecting a radio station. Just as you'd tune the dial for the type of music you like, the radio is automatically set to pick up that station. The same is true in what you attract in the form of men. In order to date a younger man, create the mental frequency for his response.
Now, you carry that vibe. Again, like the radio, it's something you emit. Once this mental frequency is set, it's ready to be received by younger guys--- when you're walking your dog, in a grocery store, or out with friends. You don't have to change how you dress. You don't have to scout the college bars. Just live your life, and watch what happens. Trust me on this one. I've been dating younger men for twenty years.
Expect the unexpectedYounger men come from a different generation. Therefore, they perceive the world differentially than their older counterparts. They grew up with working moms. They respect and admire powerful women. Whereas older men have been taught to see women as accessories to their lives, younger guys see women as equals. Since younger men accept female empowerment as the norm, that principle transfers into equal partnership.
Each generation becomes more enlightened and inclusive. Your younger man may surprise you with an unexpected level of self awareness. He may possess an emotional capacity you didn't anticipate. Chances are he'll be more spontaneous and adventurous than you're used to. He may challenge your ideals. He's apt to push you to a new understanding of a social situation, or open your thinking to a new perspective. This is rooted in his sense of equality. It's not borne of a power trip. Younger men are exceedingly comfortable with your power, and don't need to diminish you, in order to substantiate themselves.
Because a younger man hasn't had the time to learn the routine of dating, he may throw you off a bit... in a good way. Lacking the additional years of acquired gamesmanship, he's often more natural and honest in his courtship. It's refreshing. But it requires an equal dose of honesty from you.
What attracts a younger man to an older women, is the lack of games. So, if you're default is to pullout the known "this-always-works trick," forget it. He lacks the polish his older counterparts possess in countering your moves. You'll be forced to be real. Honesty is the best communication policy here. And, that's a very good thing.
Don't equate age with simplicity. He may have more content than you expect. What you thought would be a casual fling, may turn into the real thing. Less guarded emotionally, lacking the years of dating and it's corresponding disillusionment, a younger man comes with a cleaner slate. It's a blank canvass upon which the two of you may design the finest romance imaginable.
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Dating expert Susan Winter examines what it takes to attract younger men.
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Susan Winter is the author of Older Women/Younger Men, New Horizon Press, 2000. Winter is a relationship expert and social futurist. She is also a seasoned television anchor and radio host, and is launching the eagerly anticipated Older Women/Younger Men Radio in April 2008. You can find her at www.susanwinter.net. - allstardatingtips.com |
