Making Dating Easy Again
Changing your dating mind-set
By Vin DiCarlo, All-Star contributor
Updated: 6:51AM, July 1, 2008
Does it ever feel like WORK meeting women?
And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not even closer to your goal?
If you answered yes to either of those questions, then raed on.
I'm not going to lie, the dating game can be quite frustrating. You see a girl you like, but she has a boyfriend. You think everything is going great with a girl and she stops returning your calls.
Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have to do everything to move things forward.
You have to have the courage to approach.
You have to keep the conversation going at first, You have to escalate physically, You have to get her number or rack your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home, You have to plan the date.
Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's behavior than women.
(Don't get me started on that...let's just say women are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")
It can be pretty exhausting, especially if you're not "extroverted" by nature. In fact... I just had a client who often complained of "extroversion fatigue."
I knew exactly what he meant because I used to struggle with it too. Before I began to teach myself pickup, I would go out, and be mentally drained after talking to three or four women. I would have to sit down and rest!
Think about how strange that is. In a situation where you are supposed to be having fun and relax, I was instead working harder than I was at my full time job.
I'd go home and be absolutely dead… from talking to women!
And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me or have sex with me.
It was like a full time job and I was working overtime!
When I first got in this game, I literally had to force myself to go out and pickup all day for days on end.
But what can I say, I was passionate about learning all this stuff (and not to mention extremely eager for results after years of frustration).
I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym. I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.
If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.
There are three reasons for this.
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Vin DiCarlo is one of the world's premier dating coaches and trainers. His provocative, controversial and chillingly effective methods cut directly to the core of social interactions between men and women. He draws on his scientific and analytical background and combines it with his vast real-life experience with women in order to transform his clients, enriching and motivating men across the globe. He can always be found at www.vindicarlo.com. - AllStarDatingTips.com |
