Making Dating Easy Again
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First, being socially proactive may be new to you.
I recall when I first started lifting weights, I didn't have upper pectoral muscles - the muscle at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.
Actually I did, but they were so small and weak, it took a good three weeks to even begin to feel them. Every time I worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms.
And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts of weight without all the soreness and fatigue.
Your mind is the same way.
It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your own. If you're not pushing yourself hard day in-day out, it can take awhile, depending on your skill level.
Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you think there's too much to do or learn when meeting women.
This is actually a little different from "fatigue." It's more like feeling overwhelmed.
When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement, which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware. It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I give up before I can even begin."
This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING.
I suffered from this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my theories on paper.
I looked at my notes and felt like I was looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.
It was daunting to think that I had to DO all this stuff just to have quality women in my life.
The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn't useful to pickup.
I'd say 99 percent of guys get it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most guys learn to hide their inner b.s. after a few harsh rejections.
But this doesn't negate the fact that when the average guy is attracted to a woman, he spends his mental energy on trying to impress her, or figure out if she likes him.
Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents and friends, and women - it's the man's role to impress the woman and earn sex from her.
Absolutely ridiculous!
I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a fool while she giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.
Ok enough ranting... the point is that most guys are screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating lives.
But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.
You need to OPTIMIZE YOUR MIND and body to function at the highest level when interacting with women, because that's what's truly attractive.* Vin DiCarlo is one of the world's premier dating coach and trainer. He draws on his scientific and analytical background and combines it with his vast real-life experience with women in order to transform his clients. He can be found at www.vindicarlo.com.
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