Mistakes Made in Bars/Clubs
Learn to rock the club scene
By Vin DiCarlo, All-Star contributor
Updated: 6:51AM, August 1, 2008
IAre you frustrated with the bar and club scene?
If so, then this article will be VERY useful to you...
I can remember in my younger days spending night after night in bars and clubs, approaching so many women I'd lose count in a single night.
It's all kind of a blur to me now.
But looking back, I realize I made a TON of mistakes.
Oh well...that's life.
At least I learned from them.
A lot of what I learned was technical stuff - how to approach, engage, and escalate with the women I chose.
But there are some deeper things I learned, that I want to share with you.
When guys start trying to improve with women, the first thing they usually think about is what they are going to do in the bar or club.
They picture this crazy dark place full of scantily-clad women, and they see it almost like a battlefield for which they are unprepared.
For most guys who are struggling with the opposite sex, the bar is an intimidating place.
In fact, nightclubs are actually DESIGNED to intimidate patrons, because that will lead to more alcohol sales.
Think about it - whats the first thing you want to do when you walk into a club?
Get a drink!
Not because you love to drink...but because you are intimidated.
It's unfortunate, but that's what's going on.
And hey - it's actually pretty smart on their part.
The thing is, a lot of guys don't have time during the day to meet women, and have to go out on the weekends.
Maybe you work long hours, or live in a town with a really small population.
If this is the case, a bar or club can offer a large selection of women - you can book your whole week for dates after one night at the club.
But it's not as easy as it sounds - you probably already know that.
It's funny - everytime I'd go out at night, I'd think "yeah, there are gonna be so many girls, it's gonna be awesome."
Then I'd get there.
And sure enough, there were tons of women.
But I was intimidated.
And even though I'd talk to tons of women, I'd get nowhere with them.
Or if I got a number it would flake.
After years and years of trial and error, I now have a much better perspective on the whole thing.
There's one thing you gotta know about meeting women at night.
They are expecting to be approached...badly.
And by that I mean, they are mentally prepared to have drunk guys walking up and saying idiotic things all night.
And they project this onto every guy.
So in a sense, you are working up hill, so to speak.
But that goes right out the window after you approach and she feels your expression.
But that's a whole 'nother story.
Right now I want to talk about some stuff you can do for yourself, to make the whole process easier.
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